By Fatima Mir (Maloney HS – Peer Advocate) Dealing with Peer Pressure as a Teenager October 2023 Peer pressure is often a rite of passage for teenagers. Having to establish your personal identity while also trying to fit in is difficult. We often encounter situations that challenge our values and beliefs. Is fitting in worth deviating from our values? That becomes the true challenge of peer pressure. Dealing with peer pressure is an essential skill that can set the foundation for a lifetime of confident decision-making. What is peer pressure anyway? Peer pressure happens when teens encourage each other to engage in a particular behavior. Peer pressure can be positive and negative. Positive peer pressure is when teens encourage each other to do well in school, avoid substances, and other behaviors that help us grow. Teens should encourage each other to step outside of their comfort zones, but there is a wrong way! Positive peer pressure is never forced or coerced. It doesn’t involve shame for making mistakes. Negative peer pressure is when teens encourage each other to skip school, engage in substances, bully others, and other destructive behaviors. Negative peer pressure may involve threats or embarrassment. It can lead to isolation, depression, and stress. Have you ever been peer pressured into doing something? Have you ever pressured someone else into doing something else? It can be really easy to get swept up in trends and drama. Let’s explore some effective strategies on how we can handle peer pressure and stay true to ourselves. 1. Self-Awareness is Key One of the first steps in dealing with peer pressure is to develop self-awareness. Teenagers should take time to reflect on their values, interests, and boundaries. Knowing who you are and what you stand for is crucial when faced with decisions that could compromise your principles. 2. Choose Your Friends Wisely Surrounding yourself with like-minded, supportive friends can be a powerful defense against negative peer pressure. Seek out friendships that encourage you to make decisions that align with your values and goals. True friends will respect your choices and won’t pressure you into doing things you’re uncomfortable with. 3. Practice Assertiveness Being assertive is an important skill when dealing with peer pressure. Teens should learn to express their opinions and feelings confidently without being aggressive or passive. Saying “no” firmly, but respectfully, can help ward off unwanted influences. 4. Set Boundaries Establishing clear boundaries is crucial in resisting peer pressure. Teens should identify their limits and communicate them to their friends. Knowing where you draw the line can make it easier to decline invitations or suggestions that go against your values. 5. Develop Problem-Solving Skills Learning how to problem-solve can empower us to make better decisions. Engaging in critical thinking about consequences and exploring alternative solutions to peer pressure are great ways to practice your problem-solving skills. 6. Seek Support It’s essential for teenagers to have a support system they can turn to when dealing with peer pressure and other challenges. Parents,

As summer winds down and the new school year approaches, it’s natural to feel a mix of excitement and anxiety. Going back to school can be tough, and it’s important to acknowledge how this transition can affect our mental health. Here, we’ll talk about some common challenges and share practical tips to help you stay mentally healthy as you head back to class.  Identifying the Stressors 1. Academic Pressure: It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the thought of homework, tests, and trying to keep up with everything. 2. Social Dynamics: Reconnecting with friends or dealing with social anxiety can be stressful. Navigating friendships and peer relationships can sometimes feel like walking a tightrope. 3. Time Management: Finding the right balance between school, activities, work, and downtime is a real challenge.   Strategies for Managing Mental Health 1. Set Realistic Goals: Break your tasks into small, manageable steps. This can make big projects feel less daunting and help you stay focused. 2. Establish a Routine: Having a consistent daily routine can bring a sense of order and calm. Make sure to schedule time for studying, activities, and relaxing. 3. Prioritize Self-Care: Don’t forget to take care of yourself. Whether it’s exercising, reading, or just taking a moment to breathe, make time for things that help you recharge. 4. Stay Connected: Talk to friends, family, or mentors about how you’re feeling. Sharing your thoughts with someone you trust can provide comfort and support. 5. Seek Professional Help: If you’re feeling really overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out to a school counselor or mental health professional. They’re there to help you navigate tough times.   Going back to school is a big adjustment, and it’s okay to find it challenging. By acknowledging the stress and using strategies to manage it, we can make this transition smoother. Remember, your mental health is just as important as your grades. Taking care of yourself should always be a priority.   Let’s aim to make this school year not just about academic success, but also about personal growth and well-being. Stay mindful, stay connected, and support each other as we navigate this journey together.   Sources American Psychological Association. “Stress in America: Generation Z.” American Psychological Association, 2018, www.apa.org/news/press/releases/stress/2018/stress-gen-z.pdf. National Institute of Mental Health. “Social Anxiety Disorder: More Than Just Shyness.” National Institute of Mental Health, www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/social-anxiety-disorder-more-than-just-shyness. Macan, Therese H., et al. “College Students’ Time Management: Correlations with Academic Performance and Stress.” Journal of Educational Psychology, vol. 82, no. 4, 1990, pp. 760-768. “The Power of Routines.” Harvard Health Publishing, 2019, www.health.harvard.edu/blog/the-power-of-routines-2019102418099. “Self-care: Why It Matters.” Mayo Clinic, 2019, www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/self-care/art-20044157.